Something for the Journey
Robin Tanner, UUMA President

I have a playlist for the hard times. It’s called “Refuel and Remember.” On that playlist is a song from Rag’n’Bone Man entitled “Human.” The lyrics include the lines “some people think I can solve them. Lord heavens above. I’m only human after all.”
It is a reminder that I often need, especially now. My spouse is in recovery from alcoholism and as I began my journey with Al-Anon I realized much of my harmful behavior involved fixing and solving. Part of my healing journey is to recognize my humanity and accept what I cannot control.
I would suspect I am not alone in this journey and work among our association.
Our ministries include tangible markers that set us apart from our communities – collars, robes, stoles, uniforms, and titled badges. We receive security clearance whether in the form of confidential pastoral confidence or badges that literally allow us to enter into spaces that civilians are not able to be in. We have training and degrees that can further reinforce our understanding of our separateness. And as one of my mentors reminded me: never believe you are the worst thing you have ever done, but also don’t believe your own PR!
Recently, I encountered my own humanity up close and personal when without title, or signifier, I sat in a medical office receiving hard news about a loved one. In that moment, my humanity felt very exposed. After leaving the doctor, the first person I called was a member of the UUMA. Not because of their title or degrees, but because I knew it was safe to be human with them. They understood and didn’t try to pastor me. They were present in the only way a colleague can be.
As we come into the summer, our ministries shift in different ways. For some, this season brings opportunities for rest and renewal; for others, it is a time of continued or even heightened ministry. No matter what the coming months bring I hope for you, dear colleagues, a collegiality that allows you to be human as you take off the collar, put down the badge, or hang up the uniform. I pray that in the coming year, your UUMA will foster more restorative spaces that embrace our humanity while encouraging our collective growth. I know we need one another, and even as tired as I am, I deeply believe in our collegiality and the promise of what our Association is and yet can be.
In the spirit of that humanity, your UUMA is going to take some time over the next few weeks for transition and also tending to our humaneness. Please understand if there is a couple weeks delay from your board and staff in non-urgent matters. We look forward to returning to the work, together, in August.
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